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Posted by todayisagiftxx on January 2, 2005, at 11:12:19
I figured this was a proper place to put this, grief is seems almost an understatement to what I am feeling at this moment. We had a long-distance engagement, but in the beginning of our relationship we lived together for 2 years and he had moved back to live in his home state to go back to school again. Maybe I should have taken that as an indicator. This was about 2 years ago, then about 3 weeks ago he starts acting strange and cranky and pretending he is tired on the phone but I suppose he was gearing up to tell me he didn't want to be with me anymore. So I don't hear from him for 4 days and I find in my email box a letter from him stating that he can no longer come to see me anymore and that these years have been great but he is moving on. I went into absolute hysterics and could not get a handle on myself, I wanted my life to end right then and there. I ended up going inpatient to a psych crisis unit because my therapist thought it was necessary, my chronic depression recurred from this and it was in remission for quite awhile. Apparently in the days prior to his email he had been talking to a girl that was his "friend" in the past, eventhough I had never heard of her, and the same day he sent the email they suddenly became in a relationship. This made me even more upset, I guess rightfully so. But I guess what I am struggling with is that I am confused to the fact if he is confused himself with things and he is just getting with this girl to take his mind off everything because how healthy can his relationship possibly be, and he keeps telling me he still loves me and cares about me but he still hasn't even talked it out with me, this is just the worst month of my life.
Posted by corafree on January 5, 2005, at 12:23:46
In reply to my fiancee of 4 years left me..., posted by todayisagiftxx on January 2, 2005, at 11:12:19
I'm sorry. I'm sort of in the same position. I have just let go of a 8 year on/off, only/him relationship. I miss him and I don't. I don't really know how I feel. I guess I feel alone. He became verbally abusive, and having been through that years earlier, I reacted so sensitively...couldn't blow it off. So, have my key back, he cannot not see me legally, and I need to really realize I can make it on my own. It's difficult re: back injury, and my emotional probs'. Feel free to babble if you'd like. hanging in there cf
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