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Posted by Spriggy on January 29, 2005, at 21:05:23
My father has had bad health problems for years now (diabetes, heart disease, degenerative disc disease).
He's in his 40's but has abused his body in many ways; drugs, smoking 3 packs a day, and not controlling his diabetes.So he has recently been diagnosed with emphysema and they said he has between 3-6 months left.
I have had grandparent's die before, but never anyone this close to me.I feel like I'm already grieving. It's almost as if I'm "dreaming" and not real since this diagnosis. I find myself crying (more like weeping) at different times throughout the day.
And for some weird reason, I find myself feel like I'm grieving over my childhood as well. It's weird.. like I wish I was a little girl again.
I don't know. It's strange and this has triggered so many things in me that I'm not sure how in the world I'll cope when he finally does die.
I am a born again Christian and believe wholeheartedly my father will be better off ( he is a Christian as well).
But even now, I find myself questioning even my faith-- which has always been my anchor.
I guess facing death is just weird in that way. it makes you question everything.
Is it normal to experience such grief even before the death???
Thanks for listening.
Posted by partlycloudy on January 30, 2005, at 13:09:33
In reply to Father only given 3-6 months, posted by Spriggy on January 29, 2005, at 21:05:23
I should think it's perfectly normal and part of readying ourselves for the inevitable. Having being given a window if you like, of preparing yourself and being allowed to start to process all your memories. It might be nice to share some of your early childhood memories with your dad now - it could help him put his house in order.
Although when my dad was dying he wasn't able to speak, I talked and he wrote some notes back that I now treasure. On reflection, I think it was a very special time we were given, to mull over the past together.
You're both in my thoughts.
Posted by quantro on September 15, 2005, at 8:16:52
In reply to Father only given 3-6 months, posted by Spriggy on January 29, 2005, at 21:05:23
sory,this may be very difficult for you, but you must treasure these last few months you have left with him.try not to grieve yet.try and make the most of the time you've got left with him.
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