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Posted by krzeekat on October 1, 2005, at 3:49:30
I just learned about this term Complicated Grief. I think it may be what is going on with me. I thought I was just in a really deep depression. I'm sure I am depressed, but I know that grief is a huge part of it.
In a two year period my mother died unexpectedly, my son got sent to the middle east, my mother-in-law died, My husband & I made a major move from WA (where I lived for 30 years & where my family is) to Hawaii (where we don't know anyone), and then my dad died a few months after that.
Even though it has been two+ years since my mom passed, I frequently have period of such intense grief it is like the loss was just last week.
For the past several weeks I have been crying every day and I am basically non-functional. I have some health issue that are adding to it, also.
I'm wondering how to approach this. I see a Psychiatrist regularly for my depression but I wonder if we need to go in a different direction in order to help me get over this grief?
Posted by Augustina on October 13, 2005, at 9:31:22
In reply to Complicated Grief, posted by krzeekat on October 1, 2005, at 3:49:30
hi there,
i'm so sorry you're going through this. you had so many major stressors in your life in such a short period of time. The death of one's parents is such a significant loss and it's important for you to be able to speak to someone you trust about the grief. Is it possible that you haven't fully allowed yourself to grieve for your mother, father and mother-in-law?
Have you brought up your feelings w/your psychiatrist? perhaps you need to seek someone who will focus more on your grieving issues.Like you, I lost my mom rather unexpectedly 2 and 1/2 years ago. She was only 63 yrs old at the time of her death and she was my best friend. Grief "attacks" will hit me out of nowhere still and I understand this is considered normal. I had many issues to deal with after my mom died and also sank into a major depression. I started therapy about 2 months after her death thinking I would never come out of the depression and guilt that I was feeling. WEll, I'm still in therapy but I have to tell you that my therapist has helped me tremendously. I hope you too will find someone, if not your present psychiatrist, to confide in.
I'll be thinking of you.
-Augustina
Posted by dreamcatcher on October 29, 2005, at 14:14:59
In reply to Re: Complicated Grief, posted by Augustina on October 13, 2005, at 9:31:22
Well, I'm not sure where to start except that I understand what you are going thru. In the last 5 years I have lost my father, my arm,my best friend/cousin,5 very close friends to cancer,I saw my cat get killed by a dog(broke my finger trying to get her out of his mouth),got out of a 8 yr relationship(it was a bad relationship)however,it still brings up feeling(all kinds)..my family's stress from my father's estate and my best friend of 30 yrs baled out on me(for some reason it didn't surprise me, I've seen her be very cold to people,,just didn't think it would happen to me) and I turned 50.......My enter core is just totally heavy,sad,dead and totally just depressed. I will not go to a therapist/they just do not work for me//I have been to many,,,,
As for motivation, What is that? I go to work everyday(which is not that great anymore),,I come home, I do this everyday. I cry everyday,,yes everyday--No one sees me cry/I hide it. I just carry this all inside,,I am very tired ...This is the first time I have talked/written about this...I could list more loses but what is the use. Thank you for listening...P.S To the lady who lost her pet and the one who is sadden by the thought of losing her pet...Pets give us uncondition love....when we lose them, it's a pain that cuts so deep,(after all the little ones loved us when we didn't love ourselves and jumped for joy when they saw us,when we thought no one cared) we feel totally lost...However,,to love your animals as much as you did,,,it would be a lost to the "animal world" if you do not go and adopt another pet...Loving souls like ya'll have been given a blessing---Do not think it lessen your love for your pet,(when you get another) it shows your lost pet must have been great,,,,afterall you opened your home and heart to another gentle soul...
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