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Posted by quantro on October 7, 2005, at 7:53:21
im 16,my boyfriend died 5weeks ago.at first i suppose it didnt feel real so it was easier to get along with my life.but now iv got used to the idea thats hes not coming back i dont want to be here anymore.iv suffered with deppression half my life and attempted suicide once before;which didnt work, so im to scared to die and to messed up to live.does any1 have any advice?
Posted by Sonya on October 7, 2005, at 9:29:10
In reply to help, posted by quantro on October 7, 2005, at 7:53:21
I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. I know it's difficult. Do you have a therapist? If not, maybe you could find one. Do you have a good support system at home (parents)? It's so important to talk about what you're going through. You may not think it would do any good, but it does. Also remember, for all the pain you are experiencing now, the passage of time will diminish the pain gradually. Your life is just starting. Please don't think this is the end.
For now, please seek help. If you feel you are getting desperate and may do something to harm yourself, please go to your local hospital or call 911.
Take Care,
Sonya> im 16,my boyfriend died 5weeks ago.at first i suppose it didnt feel real so it was easier to get along with my life.but now iv got used to the idea thats hes not coming back i dont want to be here anymore.iv suffered with deppression half my life and attempted suicide once before;which didnt work, so im to scared to die and to messed up to live.does any1 have any advice?
Posted by shar on October 7, 2005, at 23:44:43
In reply to help, posted by quantro on October 7, 2005, at 7:53:21
Hi, Sweetie,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I really cannot imagine what you're going through.I know when I was 16, and had just a break-up it was horrid. I can't imagine losing my beloved through death.
On the other hand, I do want you to know there ARE ways folks can cope with death. Your great gift is resilience (partly because you are still young). You will, no doubt, grieve for your sweetheart, however, you have many more years in front of you.
There is no real simple answer to grief. Mostly, we do it in our own way, and in our own time. I DO recommend that you try to find some group (hospice, maybe) that has bereavement (grieving) help. That could be an anchor for you.
And, as mentioned previously, maybe your parents, or maybe a school counselor, might help you through this hard time.
My dad died when I was 14, and that was in the olden days when nobody talked to kids (I'm MUCH older than you are!). Professionals now recognize the grief that teens can feel, and there are many more resources. I hope you will take advantage of them.
When Dad died I thought my world had ended, but it had not. It took a while--in olden days--to work through it all. And, the great thing is that NOW there are resources (people and programs) to help folks like you handle, in a loving way, the death of someone you love.
And, it is OK if it takes one or ten years. We all do it at our own pace.
Highest and best regards,
Shar
Posted by quantro on October 26, 2005, at 15:39:36
In reply to Re: help » quantro, posted by shar on October 7, 2005, at 23:44:43
thanks to you both.ive now got a new therapist and feel a bit more stable.living each day as it comes.
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